Moving House after Bereavement

Moving house after the death of a close family member is a huge decision and not one to be rushed into if it can be avoided. The additional stress and strain of a house move in the months after bereavement can be too much for most people.

You need to adjust to life without your loved one and it is important to make a clear and rational decision. It is wise not to make life changing decisions for 6-12 months and don’t let anyone rush you into a decision you aren’t ready to make.

Some people feel that moving house will eliminate memories and help to reduce the pain of grief. Emotions tend to follow you wherever you go and although a new set of walls can offer you a fresh start and new perspective it won’t necessarily resolve the feelings associated with bereavement. If you really can’t stand to live in your current home then look at temporary alternatives – staying with friends, renting a place or travelling for a while.

If your financial circumstances are difficult and a house move will be unavoidable, then go to your bank or mortgage provider first. Explain the situation and ask if they are willing to give you some leeway until you have the emotional and financial resources to make a clear decision. Explain to friends and family what the situation is, especially if you have to move and don’t want to. They may be able to help in ways you may never have considered.

If you choose to move of your own volition then think carefully. Do you want to move away from friends and family? What are your reasons for moving away? If possible talk it through with someone who has your best interests at heart.

If you want to move to a new area then spend time visiting and doing research. It is always possible to rent for a short period and then buy if you like an area. Really get to know a place before you commit – does it offer you the lifestyle that you want?