Physical Wellbeing

Being alone following a relationship breakdown can be a time when we have the lowest levels of motivation and willpower, yet it is probably more important to look after our bodies at this point. Many of us succumb to comfort eating, more alcohol, cigarettes or drugs in difficult times.

In times of stress many people complain of feeling less well than usual. Common reactions to depression or worry are to change normal patterns – you may eat and sleep more or less when you are depressed or worried. You can find lots of useful information on healthy living here.

There is clear evidence that being physically fit and being happy with your weight contributes to generally higher energy levels and feelings of mental well-being. If you have separated from your partner then keeping yourself in good physical condition can really help.

So what can you do start getting healthy?

  • Use spare time in a productive way. For example as exercise time. Look around your house and garden for fitness opportunities. Staircases make good step machines.
  • Get a map of your area. If you are intending to stay in the local area this is a great way to really get to know where you live. Try walking to places as much possible. Average walking takes about 20 minutes a mile, so work out how long you need to get there. Try a different walk every day and try walking faster everyday. If you intend to move do this in new areas. You can get a map of your area from Streetmap.
  • Check out cheap off-peak times. Look for swimming or gym sessions. If you are on a single budget and are watching the pennies look in the local paper or on E-bay for cheap fitness equipment for sale. Try using a bike instead of the car.
  • Consider getting a dog. Dogs make good company and dog walking also provides exercise and an opportunity to meet new people. You can find a pet at Pets4homes.
  • Keep a close eye on your diet. Simple things such as cooking for yourself and making soups and stews can keep you healthy and save money.
  • Avoid convenience foods and keep snacks out of the house. It's much easier to avoid the temptation to slob in front of the television with a packet of biscuits if they aren't there.
  • Have a watershed point for alcohol. For example only between 9pm and 10pm or only on weekends or alternate days.
  • Take up new hobbies. Look at local notice boards, colleges, in shops and local papers. Be brave and start something new! It's a great way to meet new friends.
  • Try out complementary health therapies. These treat the physical symptoms of stress, address addictive behaviour or offer general remedies that increase feelings of well being. They include aromatherapy, reflexology, acupuncture, hypnotherapy, massage, reiki, shiatsu and yoga. For more information and ideas try the Complementary Health Information Service.

It is important to consider your physical and mental well-being during and following your break-up in order to ensure that you are in the best possible shape to cope with the stresses and changes you will encounter.

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